Anyone who has been reading my posts might start to think I am having a hard time letting go 😋. After many years I stepped back from youth soccer last season. However I still have a foot in the door because my daughter still plays competitively. My guess for many, including my daughter, is that it will their last year. I mean they’re going to turn 17 and for many there will be nowhere else to go after this so there is no incentive to continue.
Even though I am not active any more in any capacity information still finds its way to me. If it’s not through my daughter, it’s my wife or some other parent. I am truly glad that I am out of this toxic environment. Honestly wish I had done it sooner or better yet never.
Over the many years, no matter who the technical director was, as coaches we were always reminded of two things: transparency and fair play. I mean we were taught many things but these two items were drilled into our heads by the TD. The problem with this is that some technical directors are like 📺 evangelists. What’s that expression? Do as I say not as I do.
In an ideal world you are supposed to apply both at 100% but it’s impossible to do when the Technical Director himself doesn’t follow through on it either at 100%.
Here are two examples where both transparency and fair play can be applied.
1) as coaches we’re told never to guarantee a spot to a returning or new player during the tryout period.
2) As coaches we’re told that when it comes down to finalizing the roster and you have players with similar skills look to choose the player that showed commitment during the tryouts.
Easier said than done. It basically never happens.
Case in point this winter. There is a player on my daughter’s team who is a multi sport player. As a family they’ve made it clear for years now which sport that takes priority. It’s the other one 😋. These past fews years they’ve shown very little commitment to soccer during the winter months. It’s hard to do when your other sport is hockey but at the same time there should be some degree of compromise which from what I gather there isn’t much of. Here’s the kicker. She was guaranteed a spot early on in the winter in writing (rookie mistake on the coach’s part) and while she has missed a significant amount of training sessions she continues to play full games. And these are just meaningless matches. Is she a great player? No. But I will say she is a decent soccer player. Having said that though there are better skilled players on this team that have shown more commitment that deserve a spot on the team ahead of her.
I coached this team four years ago and alot can and has happened since. I can tell you this much though. Four years ago during a winter tryout session I was pulled aside by the current technical director and was told to cut this player from the team. She was one of three he wanted me to cut. I chose not to cut any of the three. Again, I know that alot can change in four years but now, even for the technical director, she’s untouchable. There is something called principle and some folks have a hard time with that starting with the guy at the top.
I am sure some of you honed in on the fact that I had an opportunity to cut this player four years ago and didn’t. The explanation is pretty simple and straightforward. Going in as a first year coach with the team I made the decision beforehand that I would not cut any player. I wanted to give every player a chance to prove themselves during the summer season. At one point during the winter session a very skilled player from another club came wanting to tryout. When it came down to finalizing the roster, this new player deserved a spot and so I pleaded with the technical director to allow me to carry an extra player so I wouldn’t have to cut anyone. He wouldn’t have any of it so at the 11th hour I cut a player who was not as skilled and who for the better part of the winter tryout period was injured. A difficult decision but it was the correct decision.
I feel like it’s a job in itself to try to muddle through the news that we are fed every day to see if there is any truth to it. It is so frustrating. The latest to irk the hell out of me is this confrontation between Nick Sandmann and Nathan Phillips. I, like everyone else, saw that initial video and like many i had the same repulsed reaction to it. I was appalled at this young man and his ridiculous smirk. There was alot of online reaction to it and as is always the case alot of reaction coming out of Hollywood types as well. Soon after this video went viral, because you know everything does, the mother of Nick spoke out stating that there were inaccuracies to the story and that her son was being wrongfully attacked. I am sure many rolled their eyes and thought, she’s a mom being a mom protecting her son. Soon after that, a longer video started to circulate adding validity to her claims. Eventually Nick spoke out as well reiterating that not all is what it seems. Anyway, the fact is that the longer video certainly paints a different picture. A narrative if you will. And that’s the bottom line, it’s all about the narrative. Edit a video to put out your narrative even if it means distorting some facts. Having said that, here are my 2 cents on this incident.
It takes two to tango. In this case there were actually 3 parties involved. There has to be a shared responsibility here. However, I don’t for one minute believe that Phillips was trying to egg on or instigate a confrontation by walking towards the youths. I also watched Sandmann’s interview on NBC. Since it took a few days for him do the TV gig you have to believe that he got prepped/guidance from his parents and lawyer on how to carry himself and what to say. Enough was said in the interview but i will focus on one point he made. He says his “smile” was his way of trying to defuse the situation. I don’t buy it. For one, it was a smirk and not a smile. He smirked while his school mates cheered him on in the background. His ego was being stroked and he was reveling and loving every minute. He certainly came across as holier than thou who saw Phillips as being beneath him. A sense of entitlement. No manipulation or editing of any video will change my mind on this.
Anyway, do you know how someone who really wanted to defuse that situation would go about it? You turn around and walk away and tell your school mates to follow suit. That’s how you do it.
Finally, i could care less about what cap he was wearing. I grew up Catholic but this is a different kind of catholic that’s for sure.
I follow many a stars on twitter, one is @Alyssa_Milano.. she wrote a piece on this incident. You can find it here: https://www.thewrap.com/alyssa-milano-red-hats-maga-hats-in-trumps-america-its-not-enough-to-not-be-a-racist/. It shocks me to read the vitriol comments she gets on her IG account. Mad respect to her though for being so relentless.
Before I get into my rant I will mention that there are always two sides to every story. All of my posts are opinion pieces. This one is no different.
This season the steelers had some drama to contend with. They started the season with one distraction and ended with another. Le’veon Bell held out at the beginning of the season and in the end failed to report on time and therefore was no longer eligible to play. Antonio Brown was benched for the final game of the season for some altercation during a practice. It’s not the first time he’s created drama as well.
As it the case with everyone on this planet, we must take care of our own well being. Both Bell and Brown are doing that. They feel they’ve been wronged and they chose not to accept that. Fine. Here’s my beef though, do you have to be babies about it? Literally man children and quite honestly I blame social media especially twitter for giving these pros a platform to be man children. Bell on many occasions used twitter to imply (whether through emojis, cryptic tweets or stupid one liners) that he was coming back while going completely dark on his teammates. In the end he did not. He messed with people’s emotions and that’s not cool. And please let’s not argue that it wasn’t premeditated. It was. On a side note yet somewhat related, I was unfortunate enough to draft Bell in my fantasy football league this year but thanks to my shrewd managerial skills I won the championship in spite of that so screw youuuu Le’veon Bell!!! No resentment here at all 😋. Brown also decided to take a page out of Bell’s PlayBook and hopped onto twitter to put out these cryptic tweets that just do nothing but show the level of immaturity of some of these professional players. Steelers TE Jesse James said it best, the steelers were worse than the Kardashians this year. On the news for all the wrong reasons.
The sad thing is that both these players have been problematic in the past and you would think no team would want to touch them. That assumption would be wrong. There are teams willing to take that chance.
PS: I am not a steelers fan.
Decided to take some time off writing during the holiday break. Been off work for two weeks and just chilled and ate and ate and ate. I start work tomorrow so I’ll be getting back to my old routine. Oh and even though I haven’t posted I do continue to have my coffee 😁.
The holiday season is basically over and it really hasn’t been a hot topic of conversation since the early part of the xmas period but I want to throw in my 2 cents on the ‘Baby it’s Cold Outside’ lyric controversy.
My post will be short and sweet. Depending on your thoughts on it, it might not be sweet for you. Per the so called experts, when you read the ‘Baby it’s Cold Outside’ lyrics through today’s lenses they are deemed inappropriate. That’s right. Different time. Different lenses. I am not going to write that I did significant research but I wonder if these folks that have issues with these lyrics take the time to listen to today’s musical artists, regardless of their genre to see how many songs contain inappropriate, sexist and mysogenistic lyrics. Like selective memory maybe these folks use selective lenses? Anyway, I could have taken the time to list a few here but no need to. Google it. Works like a charm 😁👍.
Nevermind that the other reindeer never let him join in any reindeer games. Rudolph has bigger problems.
I love the holiday season because it’s a time for getting together with family and friends. Our world has become increasingly busy and so times like these are important. There is also another reason I love the holiday season. The classics like ‘A Charlie Brown Christmas’, ‘Frosty the Snowman’, ‘The Grinch’ and of course ‘Rudolph the Red Nosed Reindeer’ to name a few. I continue to make it a point to watch these classics even now at the ripe old age of 49. These specials bring back tons of great memories. But God forbid now you try to enjoy something for what it is or what it was. Nope. Can’t do that nowadays. Seems Rudolph is promoting bullying and bigotry.
Rudolph Actor Says Critics of Bullying Plot Miss the Point: ‘It’s More Relevant Now Than Ever’
My God man, this world has become so ridiculous and overly sensitive. It’s all about getting to your safe place when things don’t go your way. Jesus Christ. This nonsense has me swearing on a post about the holiday season!! Everything is a problem with todays generation. Now they want to rewrite Rudolphs history. I say no…
“Rudolph the red-nosed reindeer
You’ll go down in history!”
Can’t something just be what it is? There are far worse things in this world that need immediate attention.
Anyway, I took the following from a friends FB post..
let’s just go all the way and ban these songs also!
Merry Christmas !
We should banish the following:
1. I Saw Mommy Kissing Santa Claus: subjecting minors to softcore porn
2. The Christmas Song: Open fire? Pollution. Folks dressed up like Eskimos? Cultural appropriation
3. Holly Jolly Christmas: Kiss her once for me? Unwanted advances
4. White Christmas? Racist
5. Santa Claus is Coming to Town: Sees you when you’re sleeping? Knows when you’re awake? Peeping Tom stalker
6. Most Wonderful Time of the Year: Everyone telling you be of good cheer? Forced to hide depression
7. Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer: Bullying
8. It’s Beginning to Look a Lot Like Christmas: Forced gender-specific gifts: dolls for Janice and Jen and boots and pistols (GUNS!) for Barney and Ben
9. Santa Baby: Gold digger, blackmail
10. Frosty the Snowman: Sexist; not a snow woman
11. Do You Hear What I Hear: blatant disregard for the hearing impaired
12. Have Yourself a Merry Little Christmas: Make the yuletide GAY? Wow, just wow
13. Jingle Bell Rock: Giddy up jingle horse, pick up your feet: animal abuse
14. Mistletoe and Holly: Overeating, folks stealing a kiss or two? How did this song ever see the light of day?
15. Winter Wonderland: Parson Brown demanding they get married…forced partnership. Forcing religious beliefs.
16. Grandma Got Ran Over By A Reindeer: Woman attacked & Grandpa gambling.
Nevermind turning in his grave… he must be spinning full throttle.
A few years back my daughter and I were staples at Tim Hortons every weekend. We’d go there both days and sometimes multiple times a day. No matter what I chose to eat I always had to have my coffee. It was great coffee. When they introduced dark roast I hopped on that train because it was beyond good. Then the unimaginable happened. In 2014 Burger King agreed to purchase Tim Hortons. Or as I refer to it, the beginning of the downward spiral into the depths of hell for the once iconic Tim Hortons. The quality and service just isn’t the same anymore. Their coffee both regular and dark roast is sub par.. I’ve never tasted dirty water but I think the coffee I have at Timmie’s is dirty water. When they introduced the hot lattes it was a godsend because even though more expensive I had a good option replacement for the terrible coffee options. It too now is not an option any more. It no longer tastes as good as when it was first introduced. Needless to say I rarely go to Timmie’s nowadays.
Anyway, it’s not all bad. Their app is decent and convenient for the times I do want some Timmie’s. Place an order while at home or in the car, pay via the app, pick up. Convenient. I also like their breakfast biscuit.
I guess it would be fitting to mention that my usual Sunday morning coffee is nespresso. The irony though is that I wrote this post from a Timmie’s this morning. Early morning trip to nonna’s and so a quick stop at Timmie’s to have some breakfast.
Like everyone else I know Bill Maher from his tv commentaries. He comes across as a guy that likes to make noise. Says stuff for the shock value. Sure, there have been times when I have agreed with him but boy oh boy do I disagree with him now. Although he recently said that his initial attack on comic book culture was not a swipe at Stan Lee… Ummm, yes it was. I cannot believe the audacity of this man to try to take down the legacy of a man that just died by being so ignorant. Proof of his ignorance comes in the form of his claim that suggested comic book creator Stan Lee was partially responsible for Donald Trump becoming President.
Deep, deep mourning for a man who inspired millions to, I don’t know, watch a movie, I guess.
Bill Maher knows nothing about comic books and its culture and so should not be writing about it.
Are you serious? You’re trying to keep it real for your followers you say? Stop. One of the many fake ppl flooding instagram. There really isn’t alot to say here. Mr ‘I am natural but taking steroids’ is keeping it real for his followers. Lol. Ok there buddy.
His beefy condition = off his cycle = keeping it real. Lies. But hey he’s ready to write fitness programs for you. Tell you what to eat. Suggest what supplements to take.. And while you’re working your ass off and not seeing results he’s popping gear and/or stabbing gear into his ass.
Btw this dude went out with Paige Hathaway for like a split second. Blink and you missed it.
You’re probably asking yourself if I am following him. I was. I’m done now.
So why was Iron Fist and Luke Cage cancelled? And why is Daredevil season 3 viewership trending downward? Hmm, I don’t know. Maybe try giving the marvel fans what they want. What about stronger storylines?
Let’s start with Luke Cage. Season one for the most part was boring as hell. Season two got better but mostly because of Mariah and Bushmaster. This is a personal thing so I don’t want to generalize but there were many times when I didn’t understand a word that came out of Bushmaster’s mouth. It didn’t matter that I would rewind and blast the volume. I just couldn’t understand a word. Very frustrating. It’s like when Ur better half is talking in their sleep and mumbling and then u can’t sleep out of frustration because you’re trying to figure out what was said. As for the two seasons, both pretty much had the same storyline. Revenge, gangs, mob bosses, power, control.
I don’t even know where to begin. The acting in season one was horrible. The fight sequences were choreographed more than dancing with the stars;ie horrible. You literally could have a drinking game for every time Danny said ‘I am the iron fist’. I actually lost count. And how do u suppose they solved that problem in season 2? Well they had Danny’s brother say that over and over instead. Holy Jesus. And speaking of season 2. How long does it take a person to ‘find themselves’? I’ll tell you how long. For Danny it took two seasons and a post credit scene at the end of season 2 to finally find himself. Atleast I think. We’ll never know because the series got cancelled. Now apart from this nonsense what was the most glaring thing missing from the two seasons? Anyone? Bueller? Bueller? I’ll tell you. Iron Fist donning his full fledged costume. That’s what. We got to see a couple flashback scenes where Danny and his brother were wearing the mask and that’s about it. . And you know why we never got to see the costume? Danny was too busy ‘finding’ himself.
Daredevil (season 3)
Here’s another guy that had to find himself. I don’t get it. We get to see bullseye in the Daredevil suit and not Matt. Instead we get Matt going around in that black getup and at one point late in the season rope wrapped around his hands. I guess the rope was his secret weapon to taking down Kingpin? And as is the case with Luke Cage. More of the same.. Sure we have bullseye but the main antagonist is still the Kingpin. And by the way I can’t picture anyone else other than d’Onofrio playing this role. He’s great at it.
On a side note. I know that we’re supposed to check ‘reality’ at the door when watching these shows but the amount of punishment DareDevil is able to endure is not humanly possible. The same actually goes for the Punisher.
Coaching youth sports is a thankless job. Well, it becomes thankless once you get into the competitive side of things. My only experience is with soccer but there is no doubt this story is common across the whole spectrum of youth sports.
Picture this. Two teams who had a stellar season. Both achieved greatness. Both finished in first place in their division. Both made it to nationals. You would think that there would be nothing but euphoria, right? Not the case. In both camps you had disgruntled parents and players. How do I know this? Well I still get information come my way from people who are still very much in the loop. I don’t have details but it always ends up being the same thing… threats by players (ie: parents) that they will leave the team if the coach doesn’t get replaced. I even heard that some players on the younger team will ‘strike’ if their current coach doesn’t get replaced for next season. That’s a new one. They must be unionized. Imagine, this on a team that lost ONE game all season long. Players. Why so serious?
From what I heard this week it appears these players will get their wish. Apparently the coach of the other disgruntled team will take over this disgruntled team. Four quarters for a dollar. Lol. That’s basically the solution the technical director of this club has for everything. As long as you are in his circle, he’ll just keep moving you from team to team until there are no other teams left for you to move to and piss off. Apparently he thinks information doesn’t get around. 😋
I really don’t know what the issues on these two successful teams are but I can assume that the major one is playing time or lack of it for some of the players. And also what is perceived as favouritism. Obviously as a parent who is spending alot of $$$ for your child to be in high level soccer you are expecting to get your moneys worth. Unfortunately it doesn’t happen for some players. In high level ⚽, that’s just the way the ball rolls (See what I did there? 😁)
You have the starting 11. Usually that means the strongest 11 on the team and then you have the bench players. These are the players that will come off the bench but in all likelihood would never start a game or play an entire game. At times, given the game situation some of these bench players may not even get playing time. It’s tough. It’s tough on that player, it’s tough on the parents but it’s also tough on the coach (something that is always overlooked). Here’s the thing though and I experienced it first hand as well. When a coach spells this out at the parents meeting before the season starts, noone says a word. No parent comes out and says that it’s an unfair practice. Why? Because each parent thinks it won’t be their kid. The shit hits the fan when it becomes their kid that is being affected. And in the end the solution is always to leave for greener pastures. It’s never about working harder to see if as a player you can become that starter. Nowadays, It all boils down to entitlement. You expect everything without working for it. Sorry but not sorry. The pattern is always the same. Instead of working harder, said player starts to miss practice more frequently. Becomes unavailable for games. Especially the away games where the travel is far. Why the hell work hard for something when there is an easier solution? Not happy? No problem. Leave for greener pastures until that pasture too no longer is green.
I know both coaches. They work hard at this. They’ve been the coach for their respective team for a few years so I am sure there have been issues in one form or another for years. The one advantage is that if you’re in the technical directors circle and are basically a ‘yes man’ you are given the heads up and the benefit of the doubt so you get to last a few years with the team. Unfortunately for one the time was up; yes man or not. I am almost sure that for the coach that is being replaced it will be played out that it was his decision to step away on a high note 😋. Doubt it.
PS: playing time isn’t the only issue facing youth coaches but if I got into it, this post would be a novel and no longer morning so I will just leave it at that as I am already pushing the whole ‘morning’ thing.